January 03, 2009

Pet Peeve of the Day: Sorry

Sorry.

This word alone is often mistaken for or used for an apology. In reality, it means nothing. An apology is a sincere take back, an admission of guilt, that you messed up. That you hurt somebody. One word cannot heal was has been hurt. One word is nothing, an incomplete idea. I am not talking about grammar, but the fact that we are adrift in insincerity.

If you are to apologize, then apologize! Make it long, make it honest, give reason why. 'Sorry' is an insult, an attempt to repair damage while saving face. The logic behind an apology is to lose face, to lower yourself so you are down with who you hurt. And an apology does not stop at words. Show you are regretful. Only then can wounds fully heal.

We all need to apologize at some time, and we all need to forgive. Everything should be forgiven, regardless of an apology, but everything should be apologized for, regardless of forgiveness. All must be healed.

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